When Roe v. Wade was overturned, I felt very privileged to be bisexual and in a same-sex partnership — I got to have as much sex as I wanted without the fear of a non-consensual pregnancy. In this way, I feel like my queerness safeguarded my pleasure and autonomy, and I wanted to be as honest about that as I was about my resentment towards the straight women who were talking about converting to lesbianism or whatever. Which is to say, I think it’s cheap to challenge others if you’re not also challenging yourself.